Male inexpressiveness is the most challenging trait to deal with for most of the women. The role they play in providing for the family in terms of protection and guardianship is the backbone of raising a strong and responsible household.
Yet they are often questioned for their inexpressive attitude and approach in day-to-day family life.
But what has shaped this attitude and what goes through their minds; let's dig in.
To begin with, it is important to understand that a female mind and a male mind are entirely different. Their thought processes and their perception of society and the world are entirely different.
Here, there is no question of who is wrong and who is right but getting to know the foundation of inexpressiveness.
Well, it can be of varied kinds. One is about being ‘totally inexpressive’ towards fellow male or female friends or wives and another type can be ‘selective expressiveness’; they are comfortable and able to express their heart out among their male counterparts but find it difficult to engage in expressing their feelings towards their wives.
The latter is more encountered in society across all cultures.
Over the years, the vague standards of societal masculinity have jotted the dots with not expressing their emotions out to be an applaudable trait.
They have been considered strong enough to not express and hold their emotions back and this has shaped this behaviour to a substantial extent.
If we rewind to their adolescence, they had spent less time with their mothers or sisters and there developed a void in understanding how to share and express their feelings with the female family members.
However, the good news is this trend is changing over time and men are becoming more expressive than they used to be in the earlier days. It's even more pivotal to understand the fact that this inexpressiveness should never be equated with carelessness.
They do care and work hard to sweat in order to provide all the comfort for their household.
The workplace pressures, the daily exhaustion, and the ruthless world that a male deals with on an everyday basis to safeguard his loved ones also contribute to speaking less about his daily ordeal and he feels at ease by saying little or not saying anything at all and keeps himself confined in his cave where only selective folks get entry to share.
The problem pops up because the female system is designed by nature to expect expressions of love and comfort and consoles.
A female needs a sense of security through the caring words being said. And when this expectation is met with an inexpressive attitude, the collision occurs.
Albeit, a female knows pretty firmly that her partner cares for her, she constantly needs verbal assurance.
If we as males and females understand our roles and stop pushing one another to the extremes that can go a long way toward dissolving this issue.
So next time, when gentlemen sometimes express themselves and ladies, just let them be when they are not willing to; as this is how our programming is set by nature!
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