We are such dynamic entities with extremely complex wiring. Each of us live our lives according to the many variables that have occurred throughout our lives.
However, in order to obtain the fulfilling life we all aspire to experience, we can narrow it down to a few common denominators.
There are six fundamental needs that humans require in order to thrive, according to Tony Robbins, one of the heavy weight titans in the personal development industry.
Those needs are certainty, uncertainty or variety, significance, love or connection, growth and contribution.
Although we may have one need that dominates the overall flavour of our happiness, the six work hand in hand and are essential in creating a wonderful quality of life.
As far as certainty goes this applies to our consistencies whereby we are reassured by the assuredness of things going according to plan.
It’s the predictability and habit creation which form the routines that we as humans enjoy from an early age.
However, only having that feeling of certainty can produce the negative effects that Groundhog Day also brings.
This is when variety spins a lovely dose of spontaneity into the mix. We desire unpredictability and an element of surprise. Not too much to produce an overwhelming feeling, yet just enough to tantalise the senses.
Throughout our journey of life, we all have a strong desire to do something significant and be someone significant.
However, this is highly subjective and with so many differing variances, we can only gauge that level of significance according to the standards we have given to ourselves.
As long as we are able to reach the quota that fills our own personal cup of significance, we will experience the joy of its rewards.
At the raw core of our human existence, love and connection are essential elements for most things.
The choices and decisions we make are mostly enwrapped around love; it’s often the reason we go against our principles. As long as there is love and connection with those in your circle, the possibilities are limitless.
In the grand scheme of things, growth is an essential component to progression. It reassures our restless mind that we are doing something large enough that justifies the bouts of procrastination.
Contribution is also key to us feeling contented and fulfilled. Giving without expectation of reciprocation, selfless acts of kindness, helping others in need and charitable work are wonderful ways to boost the levels required to know we are contributing enough.
These differing and crucial components will come together like a beautifully composed piece of music or a kaleidoscope of colours creating the perfect masterpiece to satisfy all senses.
Understanding yourself, the patterns and reasons for doing something will always put you in the empowered seat.
Holding these six core requirements in your grasp will grant you control over your emotions and hence decisions.
Undoubtedly, this will give you the ability to regulate your thoughts and feelings with a much more manageable approach to life.
Hyesha Barrett
The writer is a master life coach
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