Embrace children with autism as they are

For many families, Eid is a joyful whirlwind — laughter spilling across rooms, relatives arriving in a steady stream. But for children with autism spectrum disorder, these same moments can feel overwhelming rather than celebratory.

Noise, unfamiliar faces and disrupted routines may turn a happy occasion into a source of stress.

Yet, with understanding and thoughtful preparation, Eid can become a meaningful and even joyful experience for these children, one that honours who they are.

For Amal, mother of an 8-year-old boy, Eid used to be exhausting. “We would arrive at gatherings and within minutes, he would cover his ears and cry. People didn’t understand; they thought he was being difficult. Many times, we questioned whether bringing him to family gatherings was the right choice”, she shares.

Over time, Amal learned to prepare her son in advance. “Now I show him pictures of where we’re going and tell him who will be there. It makes a huge difference. He feels safer”.

Preparation, specialists say, is key. Mona al Hosni, a child development specialist at Wafa Centre, explains: “Children with autism often rely on predictability. When we explain what will happen, even in simple ways, we reduce anxiety and help them engage at their own pace”.

She also recommends creating a 'quiet corner' during gatherings — a small space where the child can retreat if things become too intense.

Parents also stress the importance of setting boundaries with well-meaning relatives. “Not every child is comfortable with hugs or kisses”, says Ahmed, father of a 6-year-old girl. “We gently explained to family members that her way of greeting might be a smile or just sitting nearby — and that’s okay”.

Redefining participation can open new doors. Some children may not join group conversations, but they might enjoy handing out sweets, playing quietly with a cousin, or simply observing from a distance. These small moments are significant steps towards connection.

“Last Eid, my daughter stayed in the gathering for almost an hour”, Ahmed adds. “That may sound small, but for us, it was a milestone. We celebrated it”.

Al Hosni emphasises the importance of recognising these achievements. “When families focus on progress rather than comparison, they create a supportive environment where the child feels valued”.

She adds that families should accept their children’s differences and engage them in gatherings to help them develop social skills and confidence.

Eid, at its heart, is about belonging. And belonging does not require sameness — it requires acceptance. When families embrace children with autism as they are, adjusting expectations and offering compassion, they give them something far more lasting than a fleeting celebration: the quiet, powerful joy of being understood.