As the former Principal and owner of two schools in Cambridge, UK, I implemented a strict zero-tolerance policy against bullying. Any student found guilty of continual bullying faced warnings and reminders of my schools’ policy. If the behaviour persisted, expulsion without appeal followed. Parents were kept informed about relevant events and were aware of the consequences for rule violations in relation to bullying. My unwavering stance against bullying may have seemed severe to some, but personal experiences with my own daughters being bullied at different UK schools fuelled my commitment to proactive anti-bullying measures.
Parents, take heed: bullying can have a profound impact on mental health, affecting both children and adults. Research shows that individuals bullied as children may be twice as likely to experience mental health issues as adults.
Bullying, if left unaddressed, adversely affects academic progress and can lead to enduring emotional and psychological trauma well into adulthood. This article is primarily concerned with bullying in educational institutions but acknowledges parallels with workplace bullying. Workplace bullies not only harm employees emotionally but also hinder their performance, sometimes causing the loss of valuable personnel. Promoting a bully to a managerial position can be detrimental to a company’s bottom line. Bullying is detrimental to business, and companies must have well-documented employee grievance policies to protect victims.
Bullying can be overt (easily visible or audible) or covert (subtle and difficult to spot). Covert bullying is often more insidious due to its lasting emotional and psychological effects. The emotional trauma caused by covert bullying should not be underestimated, as it has led to tragic outcomes, including suicide. The internet and social media platforms provide bullies with additional avenues to pursue their harmful activities, emphasising the importance of addressing “internet bullying” alongside in-person bullying.
Common examples of covert in-school bullying include social exclusion, spreading rumours, derogatory comments, and racism. Covert bullies are discreet and use methods that allow them to deny any intention to harm. Victims of covert bullying may fear retaliation and are often reluctant to report it.
So, how can you identify if you are being bullied at school or college? Understand that bullying is not a one-time event; it involves repeated negative behaviour directed at you. While overt bullying is more apparent, recognising covert bullying can be challenging. When dealing with a covert bully, document incidents, including what was said, frequency, circumstances, and dates. Seek support from friends or family and approach school authorities if necessary.
No one should have to endure bullying. If you suspect you are being bullied, speak out, and seek support. Don’t suffer in silence. It is crucial for schools and workplaces to have well-documented anti-bullying policies to create safe environments where no one tolerates bullying in any form.
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