“Selfishness comes from too little self-love, not too much, as we compensate for our lack. There’s no such thing as caring for the self too much, just as there’s no such thing as too much genuine affection for others. Our world suffers from too little self-love and too much judgment, insecurity, fear, and mistrust. If we all cared about ourselves more, most of these ills would disappear.”
- Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me.
We are usually hardest on ourselves. As positive as you may seem on the outside, sometimes we forget to offer ourselves that same attitude and tenderness. There is no such thing as too much self-love. The very fact that you think you might love yourself too much crosses your mind proves that you don’t love yourself enough. By doubting if your love is too much you are now insinuating that you are not deserving of all your love.
Take a minute and really think about that. Let it sink in.
We live in a world where we are constantly hearing the word self-love. Everyone's definition of this word is slightly different. The thing to remember is that self-love does not have to be big, fancy, or costly. Most of the time it's the little things that matter, the little things that we forget to do for ourselves that are important.
You are worthy of all the love you have to give yourself. It is not selfishness. It is love. It’s how we survive. It’s how we put our best foot forward. It’s how we become the best versions of ourselves. Here are some ideas for self-care for our bodies and our minds.
SELF CARE PRACTICES FOR THE MIND
• Write down your thoughts
• Take 10 deep and even breaths
• Spend some time cleaning up and organizing your space
• Turn off your phone for an hour
• Read an inspirational book
• Make a list of 5 things you are grateful for
• Do one thing that you have been putting off. Get it over with
• Make yourself a warm drink and enjoy it while doing nothing else
• Take yourself somewhere new to get a break from daily life
SELF CARE PRACTICES FOR THE BODY
• Take a yoga class
• Try a new sort of workout or any physical activity
• Take a warm shower
• Take a walk outside breathing in the fresh air
• Give yourself a light massage
• Changing something in your diet for a week
• Take a nap
• Try a yoga Nidra practice
• Look in the mirror and name 5 things you love about your body
• Go to bed early and get a full night's rest
[The writer is a Transformational Mindset and Empowerment Mentor, Business Coach for Women, and Host of the podcast Live Inspired; Please contact the author for details about ‘HEALTHY HABITS | THE MINDSET RESET’, an 8-day transformation. vanessaseymour.com, email@example.com; Instagram: @vanessa.seymour]