Speaking of mind matters is often looked down upon, so imagine if someone is going through an outburst. If one is to express emotions, it is considered a weakness. Do it often, then you are branded a person with an issue.
It all just goes back to what elders used to say. To summarise, it is not really helpful to show your weaknesses. Show your emotions to people who value and respect you. As for the others, your emotions would be just something to talk about.
Girls, more than boys, tend to fall into the pit of confiding to a so-called best friend and have it spilled all over until the story comes back to them — a whole lot of tears on the shock of being betrayed and being the subject of conversation.
As teenagers, this could mean everything in life. It might make them withdraw into a shell.
The harm is done, and most probably, they would carry it to adulthood. There are a lucky few who might come across family members who are quick to detect and others who are blessed with mentors.
Adults too are vulnerable. People who are not able to cope with pressure are avoided. Well, the reasoning is who has the time to nurture at work?
It takes a lot of inner strength to face your own weaknesses and analyse it to know where it is rising from. With anger and pain, we waste precious days that are never to come back again.
Let us look at it from a different perspective. While many brush away mental health issues, I would say do not lose heart. Your pain is your pain and nobody will ever know the depth of your anguish. It could be hormones at play or chemicals or thoughts. Our mind is stronger than all of that.
Mind is a space that can be made beautiful. We cannot blame others for avoiding people whom they think are deep in their sorrow because the world likes positive people and that is because of the energy positive individuals emit, which others thrive on.
With a little more focus on our thoughts, we have the power to change the status of our mind. Many have turned around their fate by changing their mindset.
It is only a question of having the confidence to take that decision to keep thoughts positive when the magic begins to happen. To achieve that, there is often a prerequisite and that is hope.
Without hope we are merely existing. Hope generates dreams and ambitions and makes us eager to face tomorrow. When we dread another sunrise is when we know all is not well with us. But we have a decision to make should we just float or be in control of wheel of the ship.
The strength of your body does not just lie in your muscles, but in your mind as well. So let us not overlook the power of the mind because it gives us the choice of how we want to shape the mind, days and our life.
When life keeps throwing challenges, it is easier to give up and lose focus, but that is when faith steps in to provide the anchor. Somehow faith is able to help us in detaching from the happenings. The ship can sail over rough waters. No one can have a smooth ride all the time and there would be storms on the way, but we need not abandon the ship.
Even the beautiful ocean is handling conflicting currents. When it comes to our conflicting thoughts, we can actually bundle off the negative ones in a fast-moving train, away from the beautiful space called mind. You are the captain of your ship. You are in control.
lakshmiobserver@gmail.com
Oman Observer is now on the WhatsApp channel. Click here
